Future

I have several options in my mind about what would be the best thing for our family in the future.

KANSAS
Positives:
1) Affordable
2) Extended family, roots, belonging.  Not only would we have have Allen's extended family, Daryn and Andre are starting their own family.  Our children are so happy when they are there with family.  It's like they can relax, and they know they are accepted.  We are so lonely and isolated here and we have been forever.  It's just Allen and I, and we have so many struggles.  I think ahead to when all of the kids start having their own families.  It would be so good to be close by.
3) My family.  Living in Kansas is only a day's drive to both Heidi and Dustin's homes.  It might make it easier to see them more frequently than once or twice per decade.  It is also halfway between both of my parents.  Rather than across the country from my dad.
4) Convenient location/proximity to the rest of the country.  It is a great place to live regarding working with churches all around the country.  You will never have to travel too far, making your trips shorter, and the time zone change won't be so difficult to adjust to.  It also allows us to take vacations easily to a large variety of places.  Then I think about when our children grow up.  I think there are options for them to have opportunities and a good future in that area.  It is affordable.  If they are too bored in Topeka there is Lawrence, or even Kansas City.  Or Colorado is more interesting and not too far.  If they decide to live somewhere else, no matter where they live it will be an easy flight and driveable, and never across the country and a huge time zone away.
5) I know it's not necessarily a beautiful or exciting place.  However, it is peaceful.  80% of our life is the same wherever we live.  We can sleep in our bed, go for walks, do school and work, eat breakfast lunch and dinner, go to activities and church and shopping and out to eat wherever we are.  There are people everywhere. If we want to go someplace special, we can take vacations. I'm sure we can find interesting things to do around there.  And the open sky is the beauty in Kansas: sunrises, clouds, storms, sunsets...Plus, there are basically four seasons, which is very nice; and the kids would enjoy the snow.  Kansas City isn't far and there is a lot there.  I think we could have a fulfilling, simple life in Kansas.  It's not too different from living in Turlock or here, really: flat, not terribly interesting but close to a lot of interesting things.  We have managed to live here and in Turlock ok.  We do live closer to the mountains and the beach here than in Kansas, but I think your sister gets to the beach more often than we do.  We can still take a vacation at the beach.  Every year if we wanted to.  We could go to Colorado to be in the Rocky Mountains.  We could explore a lot of places together.

SOUTH CAROLINA/NORTH CAROLINA:
Living "here": Greenville area, SC coast, SC/NC mountains
Positives:
We already live here.  Easier to explore and find a place to live.  Less expensive of a move.
Four seasons climate.  Proximity to beach and mountains
Affordable cost of living
Beautiful places in nature

Negatives:
the South
so humid, bugs, snakes
so far from the west coast, more difficult with a lot of travel, potentially far from our adult children
I wonder about their future options, if here is best.  So much of the church world and business world is still so "southern" and it's a world our kids have a disadvantage in because of that.  And honestly, I think I would really, really, really struggle if our kids married into a southern family.  Either the redneck kind or the snobby kind.  Still trying to work out some arranged marriages but I haven't figured that out yet.

OREGON/WASHINGTON
Positives:
Near my Dad, Janet
outstanding natural beauty
mild summers, long hours of daylight
NO HUMIDITY
colder climate, I like to wear colder weather clothing, etc.
near CA
I think I would feel more comfortable around the people, churches there.
I like the culture there~ relaxed, more natural, outdoorsy, books, music, coffee, etc.
schools seem to be better there

Negatives:
slugs and snails
constant rain~ I don't like being out in it and I think it might make my depression worse
far from east coast, more difficult for some work travel
politics, taxes, so many regulations
higher cost of living
expensive move, logistically harder to move coast to coast
because the cost of living is higher, would be possibly a bit more difficult for our kids to get started in life but still much better than a lot of places (like CA).

???
I am not sure what other places would make any sense.  I have family in Georgia, Texas, Wisconsin.  I don't see how I would want to live any of those places. 
I don't mind Georgia, but it's basically the same as here. 
Texas is so unbearable hot and dry and land-locked I don't think I could deal with it.  I mean, maybe.  I would consider it I guess.
Wisconsin is so cold, plus I'm not very close to my brother. 
Lots of people retire to Florida.  There are things that are appealing about Florida to me that I think we could maybe look into. For example, I know it is affordable for retirement and there is so much to do there.  I can imagine that Jesse would love growing up at the beach.  I can imagine us living in a place that has a screen porch and is easy to maintain, going for walks on the beach regularly, walking places, and having a sun-shiney life there.  I think it's a pretty affordable place for our kids to start their lives.  Much like CA, it's got that relaxed and carefree vibe that I do really like a lot.  It feels free.  But I'm not sure about the heat and the lack of seasons and all the creepy creatures that live there. Maybe we could explore.
There's obviously still CA but not only does that seem unfeasable for us, I think it would be really hard for our kids to all have good future lives there~ it doesn't seem to have a great future in a lot of ways~ especially now that we've been gone so long and have no home that we bought years ago there.  I also have some bad memories there that maybe would be best to leave behind. I would consider it though.
Tennessee actually has some pretty and affordable areas to live.
Montana is a place I think I would really like.
I can't really think of anything else that would make much sense (Nevada?)